The upbringing and education of children is always concerned by parents. From the time the baby begins to cry from birth to the toddler walking, laughing and talking, suddenly one day parents feel surprised, confused and don’t know what to do with the unusual behavior that is happening before. This is a very good child. Parents do not understand what is happening to their children when they turn 3 years old. So what will parents do to accompany their children through this period of crisis?
The cause of the crisis at the age of 3
When you hear the word “crisis” it sounds like something really terrible, but in fact it only describes a natural stage of development in the human psychological development process. When children enter the age of 3, they realize their own abilities. The skillful development of the hands, the development of language with the ability to express the child’s awareness of the surrounding world is increasingly accumulated, the motor skills along with the ability to self-serve….
At this age, children feel the “growing up” gradually in their body, they want to do everything like adults. However, with the child’s current ability, he can’t do everything or is forbidden by his parents, so he gradually creates negative reactions and behaviors.
In addition, because children’s language has not fully developed, children do not know how to fully express their wishes to adults as well as the frequent and inadequate implementation of prohibitions and punishments. Such overprotectiveness in education, the absence of “alliance” of members or inconsistency in family rules or educational role models will also make the crisis in children more intense.
All family members must be united and united in their views on education.
Provide opportunities for children to express themselves, give their opinions, and do activities that are within their scope.
Explain to the child why he or she is not getting what he wants and that is the only explanation.
Emphasize do’s and don’ts, rather than “forbidden”.
Find out the child’s desire for independence, current abilities, difficulties.
Communicate with children like they are an “adult”.
Do not criticize the child’s mistakes or failures as well as suggest negative things to the child and support the child when he is having difficulty to avoid repeated failures.
Mirror for children.
Harsh situations occur, not meeting the needs of the child but giving the child the right to choose.